Living with an alcoholic is one of the most devastating experiences. However, if you have to deal with this, you should be smart. Here are the 15 things to do or avoid!
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Alcoholics are so selfish...they have no remorse...no compasion ..they are cruel human beings who waste the lives and time of all who have no way to get away from them -
I'm so worried about my partner. I'm from the UK & Have just moved to Australia to be with a guy I've known since the 1980's. Things have been fantastic. Until now. I kept finding plastic pop bottles with wine in them hidden out the back. I confronted him & he said it was fruit juice that had gone off in the heat. (as naive as I was I believed him at first as it is stupidly hot here).I noticed a pattern though- He would be very clingy, repeat himself a lot, then there was the smell of alcohol, so I knew it was definitely not fruit juice. I would also find empty beer cans & bottles. Again I confronted him, but he would say he only had the occasional one or two. Ok, fair enough, BUT- the end of July 2014 he suffered a haemorrhagic stroke. If I wasn't here he would be dead! He was hospitalised for 10 weeks. About 2 weeks after he was discharged, I began finding the bottles again. I asked him about it & he said that having a few drinks was one way he felt normal. I am sooo worried now, We saw a specialist at the hospital about a month ago & she said that drinking alcohol was bad for him as it hinders his recovery. Also he has been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes so he has to tale a lot of medication for his blood pressure & diabetes.Some of his tablets tell him to avoid alcohol. I was (stupidly) hoping that this would be a wake-up call and he would quit. We have the odd can or 2 of cider in the evening occasionally, but as far as I knew, that was it. I have noticed once again the tell-tail signs he is drinking again.Since his stroke, he struggles finding words & communicating. I have noticed that every time he struggles more with his words, or is extra emotional that there is the tell-tail smell of alcohol! Last night I discovered 2 empty large vodka bottles in his shed, proving that e is trill drinking and hiding the evidence! I'm worried as it could kill him! I left a note pinned to one of the empty bottles, explaining how much I love him & to stop hiding it. Fingers crossed I've done the right thing. I am so worried about him and I don't want him to kill himself! My hear goes out to some of the people's posts on here- I hope you can get back on track xx
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Im 38 and I've been living with a functional alcoholic for almost 5 years now. Ifound this article and it is spot on. After reading it I started reading all the other comments and seeing all the other people out there who are in the same situation, it breaks my heart. I love this man with all my heart but he verbal abuses me, blames me for everything, doesn't help me with anything, expects me to be responsible for my stuff and his, treats me like a maid, pees on himself and our bed, the list goes on and on. Im not perfect myself but i know i don't deserve this. I know i can't change him. He has to want to change for himself. Im just so tired of all the arguments, I can't take it anymore. I have noticed its bringing out the worst in me. He picks on me and i feel like he just keeps poking, poking, and poking me and I feel like I'm about to explode! I myself have anger issues towards his behavior and it takes all of me not to lash out at him or yell at the top of my lungs. But i feel it coming. I pray for God to give me the strength to walk away but my heart won't let me. I see how I'm changing into something i don't like and it scares me. So i go to bed again praying for the strength like I do everynight.
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I have only one idea on this topic and that is if you live with an alcoholic leave as soon as you can. I was married to an alcoholic for years and always thought he would change as he always promised he would. He was narcissistic, verbally abusive and violent. He claimed all these things were caused by my or our children's behavior. He made me feel isolated and frightened. I got a divorce seven years ago and life is so good without him - just regret putting up with it all for so long.
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I've been living with my alcoholic partner for 11yrs. Last summer his drinking spiraled out if control. He started creating problems at work, he was arrested at a casino, he was belligerent to friends and family. It was awful. I ended up flying home with my 3yr old son from a disastrous family vacation. I started packing up our stuff and was trying to come to terms with moving out and all of the challenges I would face. My partner came home. He went straight to AA and to counselling. I was so proud. I could have normal conversations with him, didn't have to worry about him embarrassing me; It was awesome. 11 months later he fell off the wagon. I could tell immediately. I can always tell. I could feel my walls go up, my heart harden, and anger fill my veins. A place so familiar. Why do I think it's okay to live this way? A life where my needs are never met, my confidence dwindles, dreams die, relationships and friendships fade, and I'm left empty, isolated and stuck. Maybe this time I'll be strong enough to do what's right.
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I just need to write. I am emotionally beat! My husband is an alcoholic. Functional?? There is no such thing. I come from a family with an alcoholic dad. .sober 51 yrs but still grew up dealing with alcoholic issues. I love my dad very much and am proud he quit on his own. I too had to deal with drinking issues when I was younger. I have been married now for 20 yrs. Married a kind, funny, honest, hard working man. We loved each other and had two girls and raised them the best we could with what we had. For the last 12 yrs his drinking has taken over his life, his family, me. He tries to hide it from me but I always know. He hides his booze and tries to act normal. He drinks every day, some days starting at dawn. We have two teen daughters who also can tell and they avoid him. He treats me differently. The man I married is only around some of the time. I am emotionally lost. I never thought an intelligent, kind, hard working man like my husband would become addicted to alcohol. I don't pray because I have lost faith. I'm tired of hearing "God does not put such a hurdle in front of you that you can not get over". I'm tired of always being the strong one. I'm tired of everything.
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I've been in a relationship with my partner for 2 years now. His story is a little different. He suffers from insomnia and uses sleeping pills and alcohol to sleep at night. The combination of the two turns him into this totally different person at night. During the day he is fantastic and we can socially drink with no issues. The problem just arises at night when he needs to sleep. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to leave, but I don't know how much more I can take. He refuses to get help as he blames his sleeping issues on the addiction. I love our life from 8 am to 8 pm but I am near the end of my rope
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I have lived with my alcoholic spouse for 28 years now. He is the most loving amazing man that anyone can ask for when he is not drinking. The issue is when he is drinking he becomes very jealous and just trying to pick fights. I know it is because he is feeling so guilty about his drinking. I don't drink. He has been in and out of AA for years and usually stays sober for about 6 months at a time. He is about to turn 50. He can't keep a job anymore, he shakes unbelievably if he goes a few hours without a drink. He has been hospitalized, been to 13 rehab facilities. It is like living on an emotional roller coaster. When he is sober for six months, we do all kinds of things with our 7 year old granddaughter. When he is drinking, I try to keep on going with just me and her. I have moved out so many times now, I can't count them. I just moved out this week again. I am financially independent but can't handle the emotional roller coaster any longer. I am so tired of it. I am going to Alanon and trying hard to pray and keep the focus on me but it is so very hard. I look back and how many times I was told to get out of it and move on with my life. I wish so many times over that I had listened when people were trying to tell me to get out of it. Now I am almost 50 and my life is in the same chaos it was when I was in my 20s. I feel like I have given up so much of my life to trying to change someone that I lost and I love that someone so very much and don't want to give up but I don't see another alternative at this point in my life...
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I live with an alcoholic and he's literally killing me! I have depression and bipolar and I take my meds daily and also have a therapist. I'm in a hole I can't seem to climb out of. I'm overwhelmed to say the least. My son was shot 2 months ago. He took a bullet for his best friend! He was shot through his abdomen and is going to be OK but what an experience! So thankful it didn't kill him. And here I am living with an alcoholic who calls me a bitch and whore on a regular!! He stays in bed half the day and as soon as he gets up he vomits and afterwards he starts drinking.This cycle happens every day of my life.Talk about depression! It makes me sick! Half gallon of whiskey daily! I need to get out of here but I don't have the money to do so. Does anyone have any advice?? I need help.
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I live with an alcoholic husband that is calm, happy, loving , & always kind to me & the kids. I guess he's what is called a functioning alcoholice. I do all the work around the house & raising the kids while he drinks and plays endless video games. While I'm actively motivated, he sits. I don't nag, but I feel resentful. I tell myself that it could be so much worse, so I never complain. He lives by default, & I try to live with purpose, but I'm getting exhausted trying to hold everything together.
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